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Been gone for a minute.

Posted by Ilicia on August 31, 2009

I want to apologize to ya’ll for being gone for so long. I’ve been sick and had to get a series of tests (ultrasounds of my thyroid and brain MRI). I’m okay, but I had to check some things out. I’m back now and ready for action! I will be back on Youtube in a little while (like tomorrow or the day after). In the meantime, please look for me to post more and please leave a lot of comments for me to read. I love ya’ll. Thanks for being patient.

~Ilicia

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Characteristics of Autism

Posted by Ilicia on August 16, 2009

Not all children with autism are the same. Autism is a spectrum disorder which means there are different poles from severe to mild and all the way in between. Some of the characteristics of autism that are noticeable between 24-36 months  of age is lack of eye contact, fixation with certain objects, and the inability to interact with other people or to have a reaction to certain things going on around them. For instance:

If you start to notice that your child does not respond to their name or acts as if they can’t hear, that is a sign. Fixations with certain objects goes further than just “liking” a car or a truck, they will have it with them always and they will probably play with whatever the object is in an inappropriate way or will probably be destructive and tear the object up. As far as interaction with other people and action going on around them: if a loud train passes or a car is honking or anything loud and exciting is happening and they are not phased by these things, those are signs as well.

On the other hand, when a child with autism does respond to different things it can be a disstressing situation. Sometimes, they can respond violently to things that are uncomfortable to the senses for them and can sound like they are literally in pain from whatever is near them or touching them. At times this may be difficult for the parents because sometimes the thing that we (as parents) want to give them the most (hugs, kisses) might set them off and my cause that same reaction.

Other signs and symptoms that stand out are tantrums (which can be caused by a number of reasons, some of which we will not know about), inappropriate laughing, unusual body moving such as rocking, spinning, or spinning objects. Children with autism are creatures of routine. If their routine is disrupted sometimes they react negatively and the day can go wrong, in a sense.

I feel like all these signs and symptoms are all things that make our children unique and it’s their way of letting us know how to communicate with them. All we have to do is teach them “the language of the land” and watch them come out of there “shell”.  I’ll talk more about these later.

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Ok, how bout I’m not finna kiss yo ass.

Posted by Ilicia on August 16, 2009

I decide while my son is in Louisiana to work a little over time and save a little money. I modify my schedule a little so I can come in earlier and leave early. Instead of coming at 330am-12pm, I came at 1230am-830am. I had worked 7 hours without sitting down and I was more than tired, I was through.

So I had 3 patients left to draw (blood) and the time to go was winding down to go home. The three patients I had left (disclaimer: hard-sticks that the new girl couldn’t do) were all I had left. So, I knock on the patient’s door, introduce myself, and walk in with a smile on my face. I then proceed to do my job.

When I tied the tourniquet on she immediately started complaining about being stuck. I was okay with that, most people do complain before hand…and thank me for a good job later. Okay, so I stick her (I tell her “quick stick” before to prepare her) and tell me why the whole time she is looking at her arm and repeatedly asking me “did you get it, did you get it, are you done yet, getting anything, did you get it”…. and yes, just like that, in a row, non-stop. So I missed her vein. Which is rare for me because I hardly ever miss. I then sighed and told her, “no, I didn’t get anything… I have to get you again”. So I prepped up and looked further down her arm. Meanwhile, she was praying to Jesus and complaining even more. I don’t object to her complaining, complaining is fine. It’s only when I’m working (sticking you) do I need quiet, because I’m concentrating.

So, I take my time and look at her arm for a long time just to make 100% sure that what I’m about to do is “the last time” because at this point my feet are hurting, I’m sleepy, and I really want to go home. Before I stick her, I tell her to “look this way” and I pointed to the left so she wouldn’t concentrate on what I was doing and then I said, “quick stick” and stuck her and eureka! I got the blood. The blood is filling up the tubes and she is constantly asking me, “did you get it, are you getting anything” and I didn’t answer her thinking I will tell her when I’m done, it’ll only take a second.

How bout when I got finished she looked at me and said, “We you could have told me something, I was asking you did you get anything and you didn’t say anything.” I told her that I said, in a calm voice, that I was almost done. She then looks at me and says, “I don’t need any attitude”. I then give her “a chuckle” and I sweetly say, “Okay”.  She asked me for my name and I told her, “Ilicia”….even turned around so see could see the badge with ugly picture on the front.

I paused for a second and thought, maybe we got off on the wrong foot and that I can change this bad situation into something good. I looked at her and said, “May I say something?”

“If you feel like I’m being rude or disrespectful….”

She cuts me off. “I’m just tired of being poked, I’ve been poked everyday.” I then walk over to her, hold her hand, open my mouth to give words of encouragement and… “Get out”. She told me to get out her room.

How bout I’m not finna kiss yo ass…

I got my tray and walked out her room.

Please, respect people that have to take care of you in the hospital.

….we will always respect you.

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Housewives of Atlanta. HAM, anyone?

Posted by Ilicia on August 7, 2009

rhatlHey you guys, I know it’s bee a minute since I’ve posted anything new but I had to have some material I felt was worthy of your attention. I think I’ve found it. Housewives of Atlanta…so good I had to do a video on Youtube about it, is the topic of discussion today.

Ms. Nene, I love her. She is real and she does tell it like it is. On the first episode of this season, Nene is in a new home and asking Dwight (her BFF) to give tips and advice on decorating. To me, she couldn’t have asked anyone better. Just look at the way he dresses. He’s always funeral casket sharp! POW!

Ms. Lisa. I think she is so busy and probably a little too old to add this extra baby she talkin’ bout to the family. I mean, her baby is still a baby. I do love, however, the practicing to get the baby part. Ya’ll , Ed is so fine… it’s a sin and a crime. *L* But the spread that he gave her in the second episode was to DIE FOR!!! She was right when she told him he didn’t have to do all that stuff to get some… he don’t. He really wouldn’t. *LOL* Just look the way you do. Word. *L*

Kim…*big long dramatic-ass pause* … woooo.  Kim, you know what. I am so tire of Kim back-peddling when it comes to what she says. I mean, if you say something, be a woman and stick to your guns and say you said it. She is such a coward to me. I don’t know. I don’t know these folks at all but you know, television puts a spin on things anyway. Maybe Kim’s angle on television is just putting her life a little askew for me to see straight. Then, when she went to that beauty school and was on her “entrepreneur hair game” she just looked like a damn drop-out to me. She appears as though she never really has had a job (meaningful job) before ever in life.  *crickets*    ( girl, bye.)

And Ms. Sheree’. Girl, that argument with the party planner was the HAM (hot ass mess) I wanted to discuss. How bout this dude just popped off at the mouth and really got down with Sheree’ like a … female? This is where the argument went into a uncontrollably funny area of road called  “don’t make no sense street”. I think Sheree’ handled herself very well, given the circumstances. I did think she was gonna baptize his ass with the bottle of water she had. OMG… it can only get better. I did like on the second episode how her and her homegirl went to the gun range to let folks know she wasn’t no rudypoo.

I also want to add that argument that Kim and Sheree had at the restaurant was a trip too… I can’t wait til they show her actually snatchin’ “the rug doctor” off her head. *LOL* wooo.

Now, last but certainly not least. One person I really truly feel bad for. Ms. Kandi:

OK, you’re (Kandi) tired of the bloggers saying what they saying. That’s fine. You are old enough for know what outside people say about your relationship don’t mean anything as long as you know what you and your man have is real. You shouldn’t care what other people (especially us bloggers) have to say about what goes on behind your closed doors. But, your mama… that’s blood. And what she said should hold a lot of weight. But hey, do I since “doubt”? And as far as your mom, girl…. mama is coming from a place of love and concern for her child because she has already seen you make one mistake and is trying to prevent the other. She trusted your decision the first time and you can’t really blame her for practicing the caution that you should have yourself. Answer me this. What was wrong with the other baby mamas that he had before you? What made you “the difference maker” in his choice to be married to someone? It seems to me and your mama that maybe, just maybe… you need to question his motives a little more. Hell, at least listen to the baby (Riley)… she ain’t thrilled about that shit either… look before you leap, Boo Boo.

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